I am very sure that there seems to be a bit of a crisis in staying faithful to your spouse. Tiger.. now Jesse. So many in the past and so many that are probably as you read this cheating.. famous and non-famous.

I realize there are way many more temptations for stars and the famous in general. When you can have anything you want, are surrounded by those that will help you get those things and keep those things under rap and you can get away with it, it’s a dangerous mix.. I’m not going to be so self-righteous to say I could be strong. I would hope so though!!

Call me old fashioned, but I believe in loyalty. I believe that once you have committed, through marriage, to one person, that’s it.. you’re done. And if you do slip up, you better be quick to confess or don’t waste her time and make it worse.. just leave.

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When I was dating in my 20s I had multiple women cheat on me. Sometimes I heard it from others, sometimes her and sometimes I just put two and two together. Terrible that I should have had that many occasions to even have that many scenarios isn’t it? ..but it’s my past.

Here are 10 Reasons Off the Top of My Head Why Some Cheat:

1. Disrespect – There are many out there that simply don’t care, are not capable of empathy and wreck lives like it’s normal.
2. Lack of Love – either the love has disappeared or there never was any love for the other person.
3. Weakness – we can be weak when put in certain situations.. especially if the other person is gorgeous and we are highly attracted to them. And if the other person is in seduction mode.
4. Boredom – some just simply get bored.. maybe they haven’t completely fallen out of love, but maybe physically they desire or need more. (maybe ‘size’ could be included here )
5. Entrapment – this can happen where someone is forced through some kind of threat.
6. Desire Unfulfilled – sometimes one party in a relationship tries for a very long time to drive home the need and importance to make love; and the other person never cares to make it important. So the day comes they cheat to fill that void.
7. Under the Influence – which impairs judgment.
8. Rage or Anger – sometimes individuals don’t get along, they get in an argument and in a fit of anger an individual goes out looking to cheat to get even or just are blind at that moment and lose the big picture; don’t think about the consequences.
9. Sex Addiction – it exists.. it’s powerful. And even if someone is in love it can control that persons life and those moments of desire can rule.
10. Money – this becomes more important to some and will sleep their way to the top or to gain positions in their careers; not thinking of who it might hurt in the process. Like Sex, money is a powerful influencer. Combined.. extreme temptation.

These are not excuses. None of them are. But they are very real issues people deal with. No one ever said love is easy. And we are all born with animal instincts; sometimes we don’t realize the power of those instincts until opportunity presents itself or the situation drives us to it.

Advice as to how to deal with it varies greatly. Because there are a lot of variables and every relationship is different. Individuals are different.. circumstances are different.

If it happens to you, be prepared. Because with it comes emotions; great emotions.. anger. Do what’s right for you and him or her. Listen and negotiate.. try and determine if it’s a one time thing or if you think it might happen again.

Understand we all have faults and make mistakes. Determine if these are too deep to mend.. or if that person has learned a lesson that they are committed to not making the same mistake again. They love and care for you and just made a mistake.

The hardest part is separating your feeling for the individual from reality of the situation. Be strong. You deserve a faithful partner and a life long partner who’s only focus is YOU.

-Joe Taylor