Guys, I’m confident that these traits:

• Confidence
• Calmness
• And Coolness

…Are outstanding if you are seeking women – dating. If you want to improve your chances with a woman and you want to have more success in your first dates and future relationships, working on these 3 things can have a huge impact on your effectiveness.

Confidence when mastered will be written all over your face and your words. Don’t be wishy washy.. don’t be unsure about the things you are doing or your life in general. Know where you’re going, know what you’re doing and make that obvious in your words and actions. Learn to hide hints of having lack of confidence.. even when you aren’t 100% confident; act like you are.

Calmness.. no one, especially when they first meet them, wants someone too hyper or exciteable. Ease into the conversation and reveal the calm side of your personality first.. let lose as you get to know the girl more over time. Some won’t mind, but this will turn a lot of girls off if on your first date you are nuts. Chill out.. slow down. Be calm.

And be Cool and Collected. Don’t worry about stuff and don’t talk like you are. This ties in with confidence and calmness. Be strong, sturdy as a rock and show her that you have control of yourself and everything around you; be cool. It doesn’t mean you have to be “The Fonz”, but don’t be Erkel either.

Work on it.. practice in front of the mirror. Become self-conscious of what you say. Even video tape yourself and play it back to see what kind of impression you get. Most of it is going to be obvious. Confidence, calmness and coolness are GREAT traits to achieve.

If you want to be successful with women, it starts by you working on yourself. Becoming a better man is not a bad thing; it’s all positive!

-Joe Taylor

I enjoyed this article. Romance comes in a lot of different shapes and forms. It doesn’t have to be a pre-planned event. It can be simply things that you do for each other.

She starts off with the article talking about a romantic experience between two older couples she witnessed and then goes on to sight many more examples like this that are so simple..

What is romance?
Romance is a fancy steak dinner for two in a room lit purely by candles. It’s flowers on a random day and falling asleep in your lover’s T-shirt that smells like his cologne. It’s a date to a famous children’s bookstore and a shared slice of cherry pie—a stroll through a crowded museum that doesn’t feel crowded at all. It’s making toast for someone in the morning and drawing a heart in the butter, then watching it soak into the bread like it was never there at all, but you know it was.

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Christine sights many, many more examples from having your toothbrushes next to each other to simply showing up when you say you will.. Many things you wouldn’t normally think of as romantic, but in their little ways are. Just being aware and being there for the other person in so many simple ways.

The most common romantic moments are simple and unplanned.

-Joe Taylor

I had a most interesting experience the other day. I was chatting on a social network with someone I’ve known for years a few weeks back. We were and ARE great friends; just friends! As is my wife; she also is friends with her on this network.

But here’s the thing. I posted a little comment to her a few weeks back and called her something I always call my wife by mistake (not really by mistake.. I thought it was fine). Nothing naughty. It was just a little word I always say to my wife..

To me that was an incident thing I was typing because I have called others that before (friends, girls). And I didn’t give it another thought until..

..Couple days ago when my wife freaked out about it. She stumbled upon it on the social network while browsing our mutual friends page. See I didn’t realize she connected the word to just ‘her’. I didn’t realize she was the only person in the world I’d ever say that word to again!

But it’s true.. and she made me promise I’d never call another girl Darl’n again. I did.. after trying to convince her it was just an innocent thing that I called good friends from time to time. It didn’t fly.

Actually, I was sort of happy about it.. she doesn’t normally show a jealous streak. I’m like “You DO Love Me!”

So be careful.. you might establish little words like that (sweety, darl’n, sweetheart, baby, babe, shnookems..).. make sure she doesn’t catch you saying that to anyone else. Especially if it’s recorded or on a social network!

Not all girls will care; some will. Better safe than sorry. Again, she normally isn’t like that, but this did affect her.

You never know.

-Joe Taylor