What do you need out of a relationship? That’s my number one question for you.. because the fact he doesn’t provide you gifts doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. Some guys just have no clue or are self-absorbed. Some are just the way they are even if they are madly in love.

Maybe that’s what he saw his Father do for his Mother.. nothing. And that’s normal for him. Many of our habits we learn young.

But, yes, you do have to consider if this person is really committed to your relationship and if he really, truly is madly in love. Because you shouldn’t settle for anything else! There are lots and lots of guys out there. There is no reason to settle or to get comfortable just so you have one.

My wife had a friend who has been with a guy for 3-4 years. He’s terrible at gift giving! And it’s not even that he doesn’t know he needs to give a gift at least on birthdays, anniversaries and other holidays, but he finds lazy things to do or things that require him to do nothing extra.

He was even fixing her bathroom and said this would be her gift. He’s completely skipped giving her anything on some holidays; even a card.

But she stays with him.. from what I see, she’s in love with him. But does that mean he’s in love with her? They don’t live together.. he does things to upset her all the time. Doesn’t include her in things..

But she stays with him..

Ultimately THAT is a personal choice. And obviously something is keeping her with him; maybe he’s good in bed. Maybe she doesn’t think she can do better. Maybe something is better than being alone for her.

Gift giving is important in my opinion. Even for non-occasions. A guy surprising their gal with gifts.. just to show he cares. That’s classy. That’s someone that loves someone deeply.

And that’s what it boils down to. If this person isn’t providing you gifts and doesn’t focus on YOU.. is self-absorbed, not with the program or relationship.. maybe you’re wasting your time?

Maybe it’s time to talk about this issue. If talking about it doesn’t help, then it’s time to pull out the marriage and/or do you wanna have kids card? Or say, as I’ve heard my wife say about her friends boyfriends.. sh*t or get off the pot.

-Joe Taylor

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