Girls, girls, girls.. we need to talk.

JUST because you say “yes, I’ll marry you”, doesn’t mean you should follow through with it at all costs. No, not even after a lot of the planning is done, dates are set and everyone is expecting it.

If things are going badly, you sense trouble or are experiencing trouble, delay! Or step back somehow.

You are ONLY hurting yourself if you go forward for others outside of the relationship.. and if you do follow through and have kids.. and THEN decide that it’s not going to work (which you suspected it might not before you got married..).. well, there’s a life full of trouble there on out.

I’m not just saying this to say this. I’m saying it because I’ve seen friends go through it.. even had a girl years ago I dated, she left me.. hooked up with another guy.. they had wedding planned in a few months.. and next thing I knew she was seeing me for a short while because she was having doubts.

They got married anyway.. and had a kid.. and divorced.

I see one of my wife’s friends right now going down the same, exact path. She’s getting married too fast. My wife is seeing problems (not sure if the one getting married sees all of them OR would admit it right now, but they are there..)..

I hate to say it, but I wonder when they get divorced? Bets?

There are so many excuses to keep going.. it’s easier is probably the biggest. You don’t want to disappoint people is another.. and so on.

But really, PLEASE, step back.. take a break and think about what you are doing.

The divorce rate is high enough; don’t become a statistic.

-Joe Taylor