What goes through a man’s mind that so selfishly does what John Edwards did to his wife?

Are there words for such a thing?

The book about this whole debacle, The Politician, comes out this weekend.. For days now it’s been everywhere on the news, papers and all over the Internet. This book reveals a level of deceit that is mind boggling. It’ll be hard not to pick it up.. to learn more so maybe we can understand.

People cheat.. there’s no question about that. But this is on a whole ‘nuther level don’t you think?

John Edward’s extramarital affair with filmmaker Rielle Hunter was one thing (bad in itself considering what else was going on with his wife and in his political career); the fact that he did all he did to cover up a child he had with this woman is on a whole new level. What was he thinking!?

Of course, we know why he was so desperate to cover it up. He’s the ultimate politician.. like many before him putting his political career before God and family.

The book can be ordered at Amazon: The Politician

If you can’t help but wonder..

-Joe Taylor

What do you need out of a relationship? That’s my number one question for you.. because the fact he doesn’t provide you gifts doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. Some guys just have no clue or are self-absorbed. Some are just the way they are even if they are madly in love.

Maybe that’s what he saw his Father do for his Mother.. nothing. And that’s normal for him. Many of our habits we learn young.

But, yes, you do have to consider if this person is really committed to your relationship and if he really, truly is madly in love. Because you shouldn’t settle for anything else! There are lots and lots of guys out there. There is no reason to settle or to get comfortable just so you have one.

My wife had a friend who has been with a guy for 3-4 years. He’s terrible at gift giving! And it’s not even that he doesn’t know he needs to give a gift at least on birthdays, anniversaries and other holidays, but he finds lazy things to do or things that require him to do nothing extra.

He was even fixing her bathroom and said this would be her gift. He’s completely skipped giving her anything on some holidays; even a card.

But she stays with him.. from what I see, she’s in love with him. But does that mean he’s in love with her? They don’t live together.. he does things to upset her all the time. Doesn’t include her in things..

But she stays with him..

Ultimately THAT is a personal choice. And obviously something is keeping her with him; maybe he’s good in bed. Maybe she doesn’t think she can do better. Maybe something is better than being alone for her.

Gift giving is important in my opinion. Even for non-occasions. A guy surprising their gal with gifts.. just to show he cares. That’s classy. That’s someone that loves someone deeply.

And that’s what it boils down to. If this person isn’t providing you gifts and doesn’t focus on YOU.. is self-absorbed, not with the program or relationship.. maybe you’re wasting your time?

Maybe it’s time to talk about this issue. If talking about it doesn’t help, then it’s time to pull out the marriage and/or do you wanna have kids card? Or say, as I’ve heard my wife say about her friends boyfriends.. sh*t or get off the pot.

-Joe Taylor

My wife has a friend that I’ve actually known before I even knew my wife.. long story.

But, she has numerous kids and probably 3 fathers so far? And I heard through the grape vine that she may be pregnant again! She is only 30 years old?

I met her new man just a few weeks ago.. question is, is that the father or who else is she bedding down with?

Not only is this HORRIBLE for the kids.. this affects everyone around her! Family.. friends.. boyfriends.. husbands! Wrecking lives like this needs to be outlawed.

But it isn’t exactly great for the Dad’s either.. because I know at least one just wanted to have some fun in the sack. And fell for her hot words, sexy moves in bed and talk like he was her forever. They got married.. few years later, ba bye.

Now he lives in divorce hell with a kid in the middle.

Maybe it goes without saying.. but women like this need help. Ruining people’s lives and controlling others with what pops out of your little area down under is not right.

Rant over.

Do you know anyone like this? Any horror stories?

-Joe