True Story.. Non-Fiction: I was walking my dog last night, and was just about home I saw this cute girl on a bike.

And I thought to myself (almost out-loud!), I bet she’s athletic… and then stopped myself!

I’m married!

Thing is.. no matter if you got a girlfriend, how long you’ve been together or if you’re married, there are always going to be beautiful, sexy, athletic women around you; they don’t go away! (Well, for most of us… especially if you live in a big city or are in a college town. If you live in an igloo with a population of 5 people, you might have a different situation.)

It would be nice if our wedding rings were somehow magical. When you put them on all good looking girls disappeared or became ugly – but then, do we really want that reality guys and gals? Because it’s ok to look..

Here’s the thing… if you are a committed relationship, you have to take the fact that there will always be beautiful, attractive women into consideration and you just need to know when to stop yourself like I did above. My wife agrees it’s okay for me to look; I’ve been caught and got the eye balls (and she looks at guys and makes the occassional, nice body comment)… but in the end, she forgives because I didn’t touch.

You know what many say right? It’s ok to look at a fine piece of art, but you should NOT touch it unless you want to be hauled away… same with women. Or at least that’s the way it should be in my opinion. You probably have your super jealous and insecure partners out there.

But Joe, “It’s difficult.. and I think I’m weak enough to follow my desire; maybe too far!”

REPEAT AFTER ME…,
“She’s Got an Ugly Side..”

This is a little mind game you can play with yourself that I do that will help you get through those moments of temptation. It takes some visualization.

Visualize and think about the issues that girl that you see, that is so beautiful, might have.

– she might be psycho…

– she might have baggage…

– she might have a terrible temper…

– she might after leading you on for weeks or months.. hate sex! Some girls do! Maybe she’s not just playing hard to get.

– maybe she goes cold turkey on you because of some illness or loses her arms and legs in an accident! Becomes paralyzed!

– imagine her throwing out her back one day because her breasts are so large.

– Maybe she wants lots of babies! Some of us don’t want that do we?

You know what I’m getting at? Note, I don’t think there is anything wrong with being with someone with issues, but this is just an exercise to keep you focused on the person you are with and accept the small issues you contend with and can overcome or live with.

This is the key.. visualize those things and repeat after me, “She’s got an ugly side…”

It’s primal.. it’s perfectly natural to have these feelings and desires towards the opposite sex (or the same sex for some of you reading this), but what separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom is we have brains and can train ourselves; we can form habits of self-control.

So wake up and smell the coffee guys in a committed relationship. ALL girls have issues. They do! The one you are with and those you aren’t. Maybe what you have isn’t so bad and what you are looking at isn’t so hot when you get underneath all that beauty on the exterior.

That’s the real world.

… the grass is not ALWAYS going to be greener on the other side of the fence!!

-Joe Taylor

Just reading this top 10 list:

Top 10 Ways to Use Humor to Improve Your Relationships

Good stuff.. Not everyone has a natural ‘funny’ bone; some none and some need a lot of work. I’m funny a lot more than my wife thinks I am. ..never give up.

It’s worth it! There are many rewards to being funny. And with practice you can become better at making her (or him) laugh.

It can really defuse tense or bad situations or scenarios.. It keeps things lite and fun. And people are attracted to humor without a doubt!

Just don’t get sick with jokes or be to raw with your funny-ness.. especially before you get to know someone, be careful what you say as you might offend. Test different approaches and ways to tickle your lover’s funny bone. And gravitate to what works.

Don’t over do it! In moderation.. unless, you have that really unique and wonderful individual that can’t get enough of funny people.

..see the results for yourself!

-Joe Taylor

Hi Guys! (Gals you can read this too.. maybe you can pass this along to your fella.. accidentally put it up on his computer screen or something, hehe..)

Sometimes all of our lives become super, super busy right? Whether that’s with a job, a business or working hard at having fun. And it’s easy once you’ve been in a relationship for a while to start.. well.. neglecting things you did early on that reeled her in.

Doing nice things for her.. spontaneous gift or flower giving. When is the last time you did that? No reason.. just to show her you care. Or maybe she had a bad day and you want to cheer her up with some flowers and a nice card.

Well, as time wears on (and it will) things happen in our lives and suddenly that’s not a priority.

What do we do with all the important things in our lives? We put it on the calendar or make To Do lists right?

Do that with this.. Start by choosing a random weekend each month to do something nice for her. Buy her some flowers, a card.. a small gift. Take her some place nice. Just note it on your calendar so you don’t forget and just do it!

You’ll be amazed how impressed she’ll be and it will be one more thing that can keep your romantic spark going.

-Joe Taylor